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Feeling Special

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Sitting here thinking this morning about what our Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ did for us on Calvary.I tend to feel special at easter time partly because my birthday is very close to easter and at times it will fall on Easter.

I always think about Thank you Lord for dying on the cross for my sins. It does not stop with the cross, but there is an empty tomb. Do you know of anyone else who died on a cross and buried in a tomb and rose themselves up from the dead? The only person that I know is Jesus Christ.

When I found my birth mother I found out that I was born during Holy Week in 1973 and when I got in contact with her it was the first day of Lent in 2008. I know how special it was for me to start having contact with me the beginning of Lent in 2008 and so it was special for me.

What really is mind-blowing is find out that God died on the cross many years ago for a little baby girl who would before she was born help her birth mother heal from something that is horrific, traumatic and her birth mother protected her from an illegal abortion and that baby girl was born during Holy Week is 73.  What the enemy wanted to destroy God turned around for Good.

Grafted in the Vine

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I am so amazingly blessed as to what God is doing since I started to share about how I found out I was conceived in rape. The other day I have the privilege to share with someone who follows my blog that I was adopted and shared with them the story about finding out I was conceived in rape. They never realized the depth of adoption. I think it blew them away.

Well I have been thinking about the passage in Romans 11:17 If some of the branches have been broken off, and you, though a wild olive shoot, have been grafted in among the others and now share in the nourishing sap from the olive root, 19 You will say then, “Branches were broken off so that I could be grafted in.” 23 And if they do not persist in unbelief, they will be grafted in, for God is able to graft them in again. 24 After all, if you were cut out of an olive tree that is wild by nature, and contrary to nature were grafted into a cultivated olive tree, how much more readily will these, the natural branches, be grafted into their own olive tree!

These verses have been going through my mind and thinking about God’s chosen people the children of Israel. Well the Children of Israel turned their back on God, so God started dealing with the gentiles and when we come to God and repent, receive his spirit in us and are baptized in the name of Jesus Christ he then adopts us and we are grafted into the vine. He has given up the spirit of Adoption and we can call out to his and call our Heavenly Father Daddy. I am so very thankful that I have been grafted into the vine and that God has chosen me to be able to share my story and people’s eyes are open, hearts are changed, lives are saved.

Re-homing should not be an option

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Just reading articles today to what to give my opinion on I came across an article on Adoption.net about the Republican Lawmaker Justin Harris from Arkansas and his Wife were formally foster parents to 3 sisters. The oldest one was giving them problems so was return to Department of Human Services. The younger two they ended up adopting. Well problems still continued so less than a year later the younger children went to live with a Family friend of the Harris’s.

This breaks my heart because at least one of the younger sisters was raped.  There is much more the story and you can read the full article at www.adoption.net.

Going to give my input. There are a number of Children in the Foster Care system. A lot of them are there because they came from homes where there was abuse, drugs and probably issues like a child that has special needs.

Children in the foster care system are dealing with issues and they need love, care, and compassion just like the rest of us. They actually need more love, more care, more compassion, more kindness, more gentleness.

Adopted Children also need more love, more care, more compassion, more kindness, more gentleness. When a couple adopts a child that child is there’s legally, they have the same rights as biological children, they need to love that child, need to work with that child, and if the child has issues you get the child help.

I am adopted and I am in a few adoptee groups online and I have read the stories. Adoptees can feel like they have been rejected. I would be lying if I said I never went through that. I did feel that way several times in my life. My birth mother took care of me for a week while in the hospital and then I was in foster care for 6 weeks and a couple of days before I went to my adoptive home.

If you are planning on adopting talk with others who have adopted, talk with adoptees, seek Godly counsel and talk with several different agencies before making the final decision.

Adoption is a wonderful thing and I am blessed to be adopted.  I am glad that my parents didn’t go pawning me off to someone else just because I had my moments. They showed me love and worked with me and loved me as their own.

So my opinion when a child is adopted re-homing should not be an option.

My view on adoption

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Growing up in the Christian home that I was raised in, I grew up being very conservative and that was my decision, not my parents but mine.

Being an adoptee I struggled with things that others may not struggle with. There was a time in my life that I had absolutely no contact with my mother for various reasons. I had to set boundaries and I had to seek forgiveness. Today, My mother and I have a great relationship. I am thankful for the upbringing that I had.

Yesterday I read an article on http://www.Lifesitenews.com about a British woman who became a surrogate mother for her homosexual son. She gave birth to her own grandson.  As I continued to read the article I thought, how much longer will you put up with this Lord? We truly are living in the last days.

Children need to be in a home where there is a mother and a father that love them. I always say that Adoption saves. Truthfully I don’t know what my birth mother would have done if adoption would not have been an option. I am so glad that God came up with the idea of Adoption.

I am for adoption, but I am not for adoption that does not line up with the word of God for families. God’s plan for families is a Father and a Mother and children.

A strong christian home

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I grew up in a strong christian home and I am grateful for the upbringing that I had, but it didn’t start there. It started before I was born. I am thankful that my birth mother saw me as a gift. When she made the decision to place me for adoption was that I be place in a strong christian home. A true mothers love. A mother watches out for her children and the salvation for her children should matter as well. I think my birth mother probably thought about my salvation. She wanted me to be raised in a strong christian home where I would go to Sunday School, learn about Jesus and know who Jesus is. She wanted me to be in a home where Faith was taught and it was real.

God was faithful to her request. God picked my parents for me. My adoptive mother was even my sunday school teacher when I was around the age of two and three.

Being raised in the Christian home that I was in we had the privilege to attend a Christian school from K-12 grade. I accepted Jesus in my heart at the age of 7 in the middle of a chapel service at school.

I am thankful for my birth mother who made the request for a strong christian home. I am thankful for my parents who raised me in the truth and taught me about Jesus.

 

The gift of life.

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What comes to your mind when you think about life? We most likely think about our families, friends, aunts, uncles, cousins, grandparents, brothers, sisters and so on.  Now have you ever thought about what life would be like without you here.  For me just thinking about what life would be like without me makes me cringe. Just the thought of knowing that I had a biological great-aunt that wanted me dead makes me sick. Yes that is a sickening thought and what the devil wanted to destroy God turned around for good. You see my birth mother saw me as a gift, a gift from God. When I first got in contact with her one of the first things she said was “I have always loved you and you where the beginning of my healing process.” It is amazing as to how God can take something that is so horrible and traumatic and turn it around for his glory. It is as if God was saying ok yes you were done wrong to but I am going to give to you a little baby girl to help you heal.  It is amazing God can even use unborn children to help their mothers heal even before they are born. When I heard that I was the beginning of her healing process I thought God that is so amazing you used me even before I was born.

Had it been different for me my parents probably would not have had the baby girl that they prayed for. My older brother who also is adopted probably would not have a little sister, my grandparents would probably not have had a  precious grand-daughter, and my husband probably would still be single. And my church family probably would not have heard  a story about someone who could have been aborted, but was saved and placed for adoption.

I am so thankful for my birth mother who saw me as a gift and chose to share that gift with others. Life truly is a gift and a gift from God.

Being Adopted

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Today while reading some articles on www.adoptivefamiliescircle.com I came across an article about are adoptees being selfish for wanting to search for birth parents?

With being an adoptee myself and having done the search and finding my birth mother, I will say no it is not being selfish. Many adoptees do want to know their family of origin. I was very open with my parents about my search. I let them know what I was doing from the moment that I decided to get my non id information regarding my adoption, to receiving my birth mother’s contact information. I remember my adoptive mother saying that if she was me she would have wanted to know more about her family of origin.

Adoptee’s go through many emotions and feelings that children born into a family may not go through. When I made the decision to search for my birth mother I had to pray and keep myself from feeling the emotions of rejection that so many adoptees feel. I have dealt with a lot of emotions and struggles that adoptee’s go through. Today I thank God for the experiences in life that I have had to go through, because with those experiences I can help others who are going through them.

Making a difference

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Protected, Adopted and BlessedSpeaking up for the unborn, and taking a stand against abortion is a biblical thing to do. I have always been 100% pro-life with noexceptions. My heart is in this. I plan to become more involved then I am right now. In the past when I lived in Minnesota, I would volunteer every year at the Minnesota State Fair for New Life Family Services. It would be fun to watch mother’s with children, show their children the stages of baby development in the womb with the models that we had on display.

Since I have been sharing my story about finding out that I was conceived in rape makes the battle that much greater.  Society will look down on people who are conceived in rape. I don’t let what society says interfere with what God has called me to do.  When I started to share my story I had a hard time doing it,  because I didn’t want to hurt my birth mother and I can be like a little turtle take a few steps and make sure its ok and take a few more. Just recently I post the story on YouTube and other places on the internet. When I posted it on YouTube my birth mother said Great testimony. That boosted my confidence.  One of the greatest things that I heard yesterday was hearing my birth mother say I am making a difference. I was in tears. I love her so very much.

Adoption God’s idea

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Growing up my parents would read both to my brother and I books and explain to us that we both were adopted. So at a very young age I knew I was adopted.  For me growing up it really was no different. We were a family. We had our moments like all families do.

It makes me sad when I read stories by other adoptees who were mistreated by their adoptive parents. We live in a very negative society. How often do we hear something positive anymore? Not very often. It breaks my heart when there are about 1.25 million abortions and 1.5 million people waiting to adopt. My Birthmother chose adoption for me because of her circumstances and she knew that there where couples out there who could not have children. When she decided to place me she wanted me placed in a strong christian home.  God was faithful to that request.

Growing up in a christian home we learned about Jesus and reading in the bible about the spirit of adoption. Romans 8:15 For ye have not received the spirit of bondage again to fear; but ye have received the Spirit of adoption, whereby we cry, Abba, Father.  I love how Adoption was God’s idea first and that I can relate very well with Romans 8:15 because I am adopted legally.

We are so special to God that he came to earth put on flesh and paid the price and now we can call him daddy. My parents paid a price and I became legally theirs and from the first moments that I could talk I called them mommy and daddy.

Speaking for those with silent cries

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Proverbs 31:8 NIV

Speak up for those who cannot speak for themselves, for the rights of all who are destitute.

While having my morning coffee, the thought A voice that is crying, but is silent came to my mind. Yes there is a voice that is silent, but there is an army of people who are rising up and being their voice and speaking out to be the voice that is crying out. The army that is rising up are the voices of Mothers who conceived through rape, children that were conceived in rape, grandmothers of grandchildren conceived in rape, husbands whose wives were conceived in rape and also wives whose husbands were conceived in rape.

Recently a friend of mine testified before the New Mexico house committee to speak out in support of HB 390 Late-term Abortion Ban — without the rape exception.  She was bullied by Republican Representative Rod Montoya who told her to be quiet.  As I continued the past few days to read about what is going on in New Mexico and other states it breaks my heart, but at the same time I have seen this army binding together like never before. Different ministries working in different areas to be a voice. A few of the ministries that I see hard at work are Savethe1.com  founded by Rebecca Kiessling and Choices4life.com founded by Juda Myers and Living Exceptions founded by women who were conceived in rape.

A lot of  our pro-life laws have the exceptions conceived in rape, incest and special needs in them. I don’t understand why. Society likes to put stereotypes on people. Society will say that babies that are conceived in rape are a product of rape, a demon seed. I know that none of these are true.  When I hear the product of rape I have a saying that goes like this. My adoptive parents did not go to the local store and pick me off a shelf, they went to the foster care home and loved me from the moment they saw me.

As for being called a demon seed that is not true either because Genesis 1:27 says So God created mankind in his own image, in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them.  Also in Jeremiah 1:5 it says Before I formed thee in the belly I knew thee; and before thou camest forth out of the womb I sanctified thee, and I ordained thee a prophet unto the nations.

Another one that society likes to say is that children conceived in rape will end up like the rapist. Wrong again! I turned out to be a lot like my adoptive mother and my birth mother. I know them both so I can tell the difference. I remember when I met my birth mother my parents where with me and my mom saw my birth mom doing something and told me I do the same thing.

Since last August when I started to share my story, I have come to believe that it will be this army of people who God is using to over turn the holocaust of the unborn in our nation. Why do I believe this, because in 1966 Mississippi became the first state to legalize abortion only in cases of rape. Also Roe V Wade  Norma Mccorvey who is known as Jane Roe in Roe v Wade had lied to say she was raped to be able to have a stronger case to have an abortion.  The more that speak up and stand with us and with God’s help we will see laws changed and All life protected.

What matters  is that God created each and every one of us for a purpose. The circumstances regarding my conception do not matter,  what matters is that God knew me before I was born and how my conception would happen and since he is the only one that gives life he is the only one that can take it away.