Abortion Is Not An Act Of Self-Defense

According to Wikipedia, the definition for self-defense is a countermeasure that involves defending the well-being of oneself or of another from harm.

During the GOP Debate Saturday Night, Chris Christie Governor of New Jersey said that when a woman is raped, and she has an abortion, it is an act of self-defense. I disagree with what Chris Christie had to say. Having an abortion after rape is not an act of self-defense.

Chris Christie, I am an adult adoptee, and it was eight years ago that when I decided to search for my birthmother, that I found out I was conceived from rape. Yes, she was raped, but she used Self-Defense. She protected the well-being of another person from being harmed, the life of her baby. While she had the pressure of her aunt to abort me she did not give into the pressure and protected me from the most horrific harm that many preborn babies face abortion.

While I write this, I am using self-defense. I am using a voice that others don’t have and taking a stand to defend the lives of my peers who are in the womb. I am also taking a stand to let people know that those of us conceived from rape won’t tolerate being talked about negatively. If you are going to talk about those conceived from rape, talk about how much our lives matter, show us respect.

Chris Christie, why do you have to be so hard-hearted towards us? What if your mother was raped and aborted you? You would not be a governor, you would not be running for president, you would not have been able to do the things that you have done in your life to get to where you are today.

Chris Christie, while you degraded those conceived in rape at the GOP Debate, I have another question for you. What makes you so special that you were born?

I know why I am special because God created me in his image to bring healing to my birthmother, to fulfill God’s plan for my life, to be a gift to my parents. And most importantly I am so special to My Heavenly Father, Jesus Christ who loves me more than anyone and paid the price for my sins on the cross at Calvary.

Sherry Hensley Conceived in Rape

Sherry Hensley is a Pro-Life Speaker from Maryland. She was conceived in rape, saved from an illegal abortion. She is married to a minister and enjoys inspiring others and sharing her faith. Her website is thevalueoflife.net

 

Created In God’s Image, Not A Gob Of Goo

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It has been awhile since I have had a discussion about the “Hard cases.” The hard cases are the babies who are conceived in rape/incest or have problems in utero. Today was one of the days where the subject was taking a stand against abortion and supporting adoption.

I decided to jump in on the discussion because the topic of rape was brought up. I decided to share the short version of my story. There were those who supported me, and there were those who had their negative junk today. Well, there was a guy who in a round about way referred to babies conceived in rape as a microscopic gob of goo. Did it surprise me that this was said? No. People conceived in rape/incest we are considered the lowest of lows in society. We are deemed to be worthless and that our lives have no value.

I am so thankful that Jesus Christ does not see us as worthless. God uses those that are of low decent and rejects, and those who are nothing to be a witness and to spread the gospel and to educate others so will come to know the truth.

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I Corinthians 1:28 in the Holman Christian Standard Bible says “God has chosen what is insignificant and despised in the world–what is viewed as nothing–to bring to nothing what is viewed as something,”

I Corinthians 1:28 in the Aramaic Bible in Plain English says “And he has chosen those of low descent in the world and the rejects and those who are nothing, to nullify those who are,”

Since I have been sharing my rape conception story, God has been opening up doors for me to reach people and to let them know that I am created in the same image of God as anyone else. I am not a thick messy substance, but a person who was conceived in rape created by God to fulfill his purpose in my life. God chose my parents for me and long before I was adopted in the city of Racine, Wisconsin my parents heard my current Pastor preach at a very young age. God ordered my steps, and many years later I met my husband, and we attend Bethel Apostolic Church in Maryland. It was in the church in August of 2014 that God spoke to me in a very profound way to share the story.

Being conceived in rape should not matter what matters is that people will understand that the raped conceived are created in the image of God just like anyone else, and God is fulfilling his plan and purpose in their lives.

Sherry Hensley Conceived in Rape

 

 

 

 

 

Sherry Hensley is a Pro-Life Speaker in Maryland-Conceived in Rape, saved from an illegal abortion. She is married to a Minister and enjoys inspiring others and sharing her faith.

Rejected But Accepted

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Based on Mark 12:1-8

As we read these verses, we read about Jesus telling the story about the man who planted a vineyard. We see where the man sent out his servants to collect the harvest, but the farmers killed the servants. So the man then sent out his son thinking to himself they won’t kill my son. Well, the farmers did kill his son. Let us take our focus to the part of verse 10. It says, “The stone that the builders rejected has now become the cornerstone.”

As I sit here this morning, I being an adopted child have struggled with being an adopted child and have felt rejection so many times. About seven years ago I met my Birth mother for the first time, but before she accepted to have contact with me during the waiting time for me, it seemed like forever. Finally, the day came when the case worker called and said my birth mother was ok with having contact with me.

Adopted children struggle with the feelings of rejection. A minister came to our church one time, and he sat and talked with me and said I struggle with two things, and one of those things was the feelings of rejection.

Jesus had to feel rejected by the way that people treated him, but because he was God manifested in the flesh he accepted and loved the people that rejected him.

We are human, and we all probably have felt the feelings of rejection, but we have to realize that Jesus won’t reject us. He loves us. When we come to him we become part of his family he adopted us. He gave us his name. It’s just like when I was born my birth mother gave me a name, but when I was adopted my parents changed my name. When we become part of the family of God not only does he give us his name but we begin to change because he changes us.

So when you feel like people have rejected you, remember that Jesus has accepted you, and he loves and he wants to change you.

 

Written by Sherry Hensley

Knowing Who You Are In Christ

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2 Corinthians 5:17 Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new.

 
Just take a walk with me in my shoes for a few moments. Think about what it would have been like if you found out you were conceived in rape. How would it make you feel? I don’t think you would have positive feelings at the moment. I sure didn’t. I remember the silence on the phone when my caseworker told me. I remember my caseworker asking me if I was ok. I remember the numb feeling. I remember telling myself ok how do you deal with this? I remember praying hard so that I would not become bitter or angry. I had to pray that for several days. Since I never really told anyone about my beginnings I just put those feelings way in the back of my mind. Since I have started to share the story last August I have had to deal with some emotions. I have seen people who say they are Pro-Life be very nasty towards those of us who are conceived in rape/incest. It hurts when you stand for life and Organizations like the National Right to Life block you from you taking a stand for your people. When people do things like that they are saying your life is not worth anything.
Your situation can be a lot different than mine, and you may feel guilty, you may feel worthless, you may feel unloved.  I have some good news for you; we don’t have to take that negative thinking or live in fear.
Romans 8:15 For ye have not received the spirit of bondage again to fear; but ye have received the Spirit of adoption, whereby we cry, Abba, Father.
The Bible does not exempt Christians from going through anything. I can tell you people who are anointed of God go through so much because of the anointing.

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We can change our thinking when all of hell is coming against us. We can stand up and say God has given me the Spirit of Adoption and because he adopted us we can call him Daddy, Father. He is the one that makes us new. When you became/become a Christian, we became/become a new creature. When you know that Jesus Christ (God manifested in flesh) died on the cross for your sins and loved you so much that he did it for you, you can know that old things are passed away and he has made all things new.
When you know who you are in Christ, there is nothing that can get in the way of you knowing how much he loves you, how much he wants to spend time with you. You will know that you are his son or his daughter. You know that he will never leave you or forsake you. You will know so much about your heavenly father. To God, we are more valuable than the sparrow.

 

Sherry Hensley and her Husband Fred reside in Baltimore, MD. Sherry is a Pro-Life Speaker in Maryland-Conceived in Rape, saved from an illegal abortion. She enjoys inspiring others and sharing her faith.

Conceived In Rape, But I Am Loved

 

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Ephesians 1:4-6 According as he hath chosen us in him before the foundation of the world, that we should be holy and without blame before him in love: Having predestinated us unto the adoption of children by Jesus Christ to himself, according to the good pleasure of his will, To the praise of the glory of his grace, wherein he hath made us accepted in the beloved.

I was born April 16, 1973, and I grew up in a Strong Christian Home and I have an older Brother who is adopted and as I was old enough to understand My Wonderful Parents read to me in the form of a story about The Family that Grew by Florence Rondell. It was a story about being adopted. It was not kept as a secret from me. I was taught to Love the Lord and at the tender young age of 7, I asked Jesus to come into my heart. I always felt that it was special to be adopted twice: by God and also by my parents.

Some of my fond memories as a child were staying late after church because my dad was the secretary-treasurer of the church. My mom taught Sunday School. I also remember sitting around the kitchen table having family devotions and prayer. I remember every Wednesday my mom baking all kinds of goodies in the kitchen because she gave the money from the baked goods to missions.

I was blessed to have had the privilege of attending a Christian school for most of my life.  I accepted Jesus into my heart in a middle of a chapel service at school at the tender young age of seven. A few years later, I was baptized in the Name of Jesus Christ for the remission of my sins.

My parents made both my brother and I feel loved so for me being adopted did not feel any different. My adoptive family is my family. I can honestly relate with spiritual adoption because I am adopted naturally.

As I grew older like most adoptees, I began to think about who do I look like, where do I get some of my characteristics. I also felt that there was a little piece of my life that I wanted to know. I also wanted to thank my birthmother for choosing life. For many years, I had thought about getting my non-ID information but did not because I did not want to hurt my parents. God has a timetable for everything. The reason I did not request my non-ID Information sooner or search for my birthmother because it was not God’s timing yet.

In January of 2008, I told my Mom and Dad that I was going to get the non-ID information regarding my “closed” adoption. The day finally came when the packet arrived in the mail.  I was nervous and excited all at the same time.  I waited until my husband got home from work to open it.  That evening in January of 2008, I opened the package, and we read it together.  I was amazed as to what I was reading.  As I read about my birthmother having taught children who had cerebral palsy, I felt so proud of her!

The packet did not give very much information about my birthfather other than on one of the pages in big letters it said, “Alleged Father.” That is when I got the feeling that something bad had happened.

After my husband and I finished reading the information, he told me he wanted for us to get to know my birthmother more, inspiring me to search for her.  I called my parents, and I told them that I was going to continue to search for my birthmother. I wrote my birthmother an outreach statement without any names and emailed it to my caseworker.  Several days went by and the days felt more like years.  I continued to pray that God would work the situation out because I wanted to know who she was so I could thank her for choosing life. The day finally came when I received a phone call from my caseworker.  She said she had talked with my birthmother, and that she wanted to have contact with me!  The caseworker told me that before she could give me all of the information, my birthmother wanted me to know the truth:  my birthmother was raped.

The day I heard that I was conceived in rape, I chose not to become angry or bitter about my beginnings, and I chose to love my birthfather.  Why did I choose to love my birthfather who was a rapist?  Because Jesus Christ died on the cross for my sins, as well as the sins of my birthfather.  I chose to love him through the love of Jesus Christ.  That day, God also gave to me a heart filled with so much love and compassion for my birthmother for what she’d endured!

It was several weeks later after my birthmother was raped that she discovered she was pregnant.  When she told her mother that she was pregnant, her mother was not thrilled with the turn of events and gave my birthmother three weeks to get out of the house.  Her father had passed away in 1967, and so no one else was there to protect and defend her. She then went to live at a home for unwed mothers, and it was there that my birthmother started her healing process.  The question went through her mind: what am I to do with this baby?  My birthmother had to make a decision.  She had no job, no permanent place to live, was not married, and no support from family. My birthfather, of course, was out of the picture.  In fact, she didn’t even know my birthfather’s name.  Her aunt though had an idea:  she could arrange for her to have an illegal abortion with a doctor in Michigan (this was before Roe V Wade.) that would come to the state that my birthmother lived in and perform the abortion at a planned parenthood clinic. However, my birthmother knew that there was life growing inside of her womb –Life given by God and a gift from God.  My birthmother said her favorite verse is Jeremiah 29:11:  “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”  She did not want to disrupt the plans that God had for the tiny life who was growing inside of her.  When she decided to place me for adoption, her one request to the social worker was that her baby be placed in a strong Christian home. I am also truly grateful for the way that my birthmother loved me.  What she did was an act of pure love, and I am so thankful that I was able to be a gift to my Mom and Dad.

When I was born, my birthmother had some complications.  We both remained in the hospital for a week before she went home, and I was released to my foster parent’s house.  God blessed my birthmother with one week to love, care for and hold her baby girl she’d named Rebecca Ann.  My birthmother and I were released from the hospital on the same day, and she said she then placed me into the hands of God.

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When I got in contact with my birthmother, she told me, “I have always loved you, and you were the beginning of my healing process.”  She also said what a lot of people don’t realize – that the baby who is conceived out of rape becomes a strong healing force in the situation.  Why?  Because out of something horrific and traumatic comes a precious human being, and the Giver of Life brings healing to the one who suffered. The day I received the information from my caseworker that my birthmother wanted to meet me, a feeling of completeness came over me, as well as a great love which I have for my birthmother.

I sent my birthmother an email the night of Feb 5th, 2008.  In the morning, I checked my inbox and was excited to see that I had an email from her which included a picture of her and her family.  I have a half-brother and a step-sister.  We exchanged further emails, and I called her and we chatted for a bit.  It was a relief to know we were on the same page.  She said, “Okay we need to talk about when we can meet.”  My parents and my husband know me well, and that is the exact way that I would have said it!  So we worked it out, and we had the day set for May 21st & 22nd, 2008, as I was going to be home to spend some time with my parents for a vacation.

After almost 35 years, the day finally came that my mom, my dad, my husband and I got to meet my birthmother and half-brother.  We met them at the hotel where we were staying, sat by the pool chatting, then went to a nice dinner. My birthmother had my half-brother pray over the food. Well, he prayed and he also thanked God for the reunion between his mom and her daughter.  I about cried because of the immense joy I felt at that moment. After dinner, we went to her house, and I got to see pictures of her when she was younger, and I looked so much like her!  It was surreal.  Genetics are wild. The next day was pleasant as well, spending the afternoon with her, touring her hometown, looking at more photos.  She gave me a picture to keep, as well as a copy of the family lineage, which is so precious to have!  I felt so blessed to spend time with her like that.  I told her I felt I have met an older sister.  My birthmother is a special friend to me, and I thank God for allowing me to have contact with her; and also for allowing me learn more about myself.

Yes, my biological great aunt wanted me to be aborted, but my birthmother chose life, and I was protected by law from an illegal abortion.  God was faithful to my birthmother’s prayer:  I was raised in a wonderful Christian home where faith was taught, and it was real.

My husband was reading a book by TD Jakes titled “Reposition Yourself Living life without limits”. One of the things that this book mentions is “We often meet someone who reveals a new piece of the puzzle of who we are.” That is so true. The year before I met my birthmother, my husband met a half-sister he never knew about for the first time and a cousin for the first time.

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I think if my story would have been different and I wouldn’t have met my wonderful husband and I wouldn’t have met the wonderful people that have been a part of my life down through the years.I am grateful to God for the family he gave me, a loving husband who I adore so much, and the tight-knit church family that he gave me. I wouldn’t want it any other way.

I was conceived in rape, but I am loved.

Sherry Hensley Conceived in Rape

 

 

 

 

 

Sherry Hensley is a Pro-Life Speaker in Maryland-Conceived in Rape, saved from an illegal abortion. She is married to a Minister and enjoys inspiring others and sharing her faith.

 

God Is No Respecter Of Persons

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Acts 10:34 (KJV) Then Peter opened his mouth, and said, Of a truth I perceive that God is no respecter of persons:

Looking up the word Respecter on Dictionary.com they gave the definition of what no respecter of persons means. The meaning is a person whose attitude and behaviour is uninfluenced by consideration of another’s rank, power, wealth, etc

To God, there is no one who is greater than the other. He has though given each of us different talents, different testimonies and so on. We all have come from different walks of life.

When I got my non-Id information regarding my adoption. When I read that I was born out of wedlock I felt my heart go to the pit of my stomach, I felt sick, and I felt like it was unfair.

The reasoning for that is because I grew up in a home where we were taught that you wait until your married. It also never entered my mind that I was born out of wedlock until I read the records. I had this thinking that the reason I was placed for adoption was because two people just could not take care of me. Also, a lot of my friends were born from a marriage relationship.

Not that long ago I remember overhearing a conversation, and someone said they believed that God would not use someone who was born out of wedlock as greatly then someone who was born into a family with two parents.

When I heard that I was not happy, and I kept my opinion to myself. I had thought about what they said. What they said is wrong. God is no respecter of persons. He does not look at those born out of wedlock any different than those born into a marriage relationship.

God will use whoever is willing to be used by him. No one is greater than another in the Kingdom of God.

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Sherry Hensley is a Pro-Life Speaker in Maryland-Conceived in Rape, saved from an illegal abortion. She is also a blogger for Save the 1. She is married to a wonderful man who is a Minister. She enjoys being an inspiration to others and sharing her faith.

 

What About Adoption?

adoption2I am going to talk about adoption I have not done that in awhile. We live in a world where abortion happens all the time.

Since I am ProLife with no exceptions, abortion is out of the question. In the Pro-Choice world, they say that abortion is safe. Abortion is never safe. Someone is always being killed.

What about adoption? Adoption is a safer option and its a loving choice. I am with a few adoption groups on Facebook, and they make adoption as being a bad thing and I know why. There are adoptee’s who have had negative experiences with adoption. I want to add no parent is perfect, and no child is perfect. My life was blessed by adoption. I am the adoptee. I always knew I was adopted.  Does being adopted bother me? Not at all.  Would life be different if I were born into my family? No. Do I think about what my life would have been if I were not adopted? I don’t think about it, but I do know that it would have been different.

When I talk about adoption, I always say that Adoption saves lives. It saved mine. I also say that Love goes deeper than blood.  Adoption in today’s world is different than when I was adopted. The adoptions back when I was born where more “Closed” and in today’s world they are more “Open”. Today the birth mother likes to choose who will be her baby’s parents.

My birth mother is a strong woman she allowed God to choose my parents, and she placed me in God’s hands and she is a hero in my life.  If it were me in my birthmother’s situation, I would want to know about my baby so I would have chosen open adoption.

Adoption is a life-saving option. There are couples out there that can’t have children and are praying for a baby. Adoption gives babies and children who can’t be cared for by the natural parents the gift of a family.

 

My Mother Was Raped Rejected Abortion, God Has A Plan For My Life

Six years ago while on a trip home to visit my parents, I had the privilege to take a four-hour drive and meet a woman who I have come to know. I admire her for her selfless love, her act of courage in the middle of adversity and her strength. She is my birthmother.

Growing up, I always knew I was an adopted child. My parents did not keep it a secret and they loved me no matter if I was born into the family or adopted into the family. My parents told me growing up that when I reached the age of 18 if I wanted to search for my birthparents, they would help me do it.

For many years, I dealt with some medical issues and had a lot of questions that adoptee’s think about. In January of 2008, I decided to get the non-ID information regarding my adoption. My adoption was a closed case adoption.

The day finally came when the packet arrived in the mail. I was nervous and excited all at the same time. I waited until my husband got home from work to open it. That evening in January of 2008, I opened the packet, and we read it. I was amazed as to what I was reading. I read about my birthmother having taught children that had cerebral palsy. When I read that, I was proud of her for doing that. It did not give very much information about my birth father other than on one of the pages in big letters it says, “Alleged Father.” That is when I got this feeling that something bad happened. After my husband and I finished reading the information he told me I want to get to know your birthmother more. My husband inspired me to search for her. So I called my parents, and I told them that I was going to continue to search for my birthmother.

I wrote my birthmother an outreach statement without any names and emailed it to my caseworker. Several days went by and the days felt more like years. I continued to pray that God would work the situation out because I wanted to know who she was so I could thank her for choosing life.

The day finally came that I received a phone call from my caseworker. She said I have talked with your birthmother, and she wants to have contact with you. The caseworker told me that before she could give me her information; my birthmother wanted me to know the truth. My birth mother was raped. The day that I heard that I was conceived in rape, I chose not to become angry or bitter about my birthfather, and I chose to love my birthfather. You may ask why I chose to love my birth father who is a rapist. Jesus Christ died on the cross for my sins and the sins of my birthfather. I chose to love him through the love of Jesus Christ. That day, God also gave to me a heart filled with so much love and compassion for my birthmother.

It was several weeks later after my birth mother was raped that she discovered that she was pregnant. When she told her mother that she was pregnant, her mother was not thrilled with the turn of events and gave my birthmother three weeks to get out of the house. Her father had passed away in 1967. She then went to live at a home for unwed mothers, and it was there that my birthmother started her healing process. The question went through her mind: what am I to do with this baby? My birthmother had to make a decision. She had no job, no permanent place to live, was not married. My birthfather, of course, was out of the picture. She didn’t even know my birthfather’s name. Her aunt though had an idea. Her aunt could arrange for her to have an illegal abortion with a doctor in Michigan since this was before Roe V Wade.

My birthmother though knew that there was life growing inside of her womb—Life given by God and a gift from God. My Birthmothers favorite verse is:

Jeremiah 29:11 “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”

She did not want to disrupt the plans that God had for the tiny life that was growing inside of her. When she decided to place me for adoption, her one request to the social worker was that her baby be placed in a strong Christian home.

Sherry Hospital2bWhen I was born, my birthmother had some complications. She was in the hospital for a week, and I was in the hospital for a week before going to my foster parent’s house. God blessed my birthmother with one week to love, care for and hold her baby girl, Rebecca Ann. My birthmother and I were released from the hospital on the same day, and she then placed me into the hands of God.

When I got in contact with my birth mother, she told me I have always loved you, and you were the beginning of my healing process. She also said What a lot of people don’t realize the baby that is conceived because of rape they can become a strong healing force in the situation. Why? Because out of something that is horrific and traumatic comes a precious human being and the Giver of Life brings healing to the one who suffered.

Yes, my biological great aunt wanted me to be aborted, but my birthmother chose life, and I was protected from an illegal abortion. God was faithful to my birthmother’s prayer. I was raised in a wonderful Christian home where faith was taught, and it was real.

God has been so very good to me, and He has blessed me beyond measure. God has blessed me with amazing parents, a brother who also is adopted, an amazing husband who I love so very much, amazing friends and an amazing church family.

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Sherry Hensley was Conceived in Rape and saved from an illegal abortion. She is adopted and married to a Minister. She is writing her story and soon to be working to get into Public speaking to share her story. Her website is http://www.thevalueoflife.net

The Refuge

Psalms 46:1 God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble.

Saturday Night I was thinking and I asked my husband what he thinks about when he thinks about a refuge. He said safety, protection. It took me almost 7 years to realize how awesome the word Refuge is in my life. A lot of you know that I was conceived in rape and my birth mother kept me safe and protected me from an illegal abortion.

When my parents, my husband and I met my birth mother we went to eat at a restaurant called The Refuge. It really is Amazing. She kept me safe and it was 35 years after I was born that I met her and we ate at the Refuge. It really made that reunion all the more special and meaningful.

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Eating at The Refuge. My dad, My husband, myself, My birth mother and my half-brother. My Mom took the picture and that is why she was not in the picture.

 

The impact of one person

Image2aAs most of you know I was conceived in rape and saved from an illegal abortion and then placed for adoption.  I am finally getting back into the swing of things since getting back from my father-in-laws funeral in West Virginia. When we got home my husband was very sick so I took care of him. I thank God that he is doing so much better.

Sunday Night I decided to share my story with www.lifenews.com. I had no idea that they planned to share it or even post it. Yesterday I received an email from them and they posted it on their website and a few hours later it was on their Facebook page.

This is what I posted on Facebook with the current numbers.

As I woke up this morning I am overwhelmed with what God has done through the night. When I shared my story with lifenews.com I had no idea that they where going to post it or even share it. Well they posted the story first on their website and a few hours later it hit their Facebook page. This morning I was curious to see how many people it has reached and the number of people blows me away. Facebook is saying that 535 people liked it and 31 people shared it. That is mind-blowing. On lifenews.com website 671 people shared it on their Facebook pages 97 people shared it on twitter and 14 people shared it on Google+. Talk about the ripple effect this can have.

Lets think about this. If 671 people have 200 friends on their Facebook pages it went to 134,200 people. If 97 people on twitter have a 100 people it went to 9,700 and if 14 people have 50 people in their Google+ circles it went to 700 people. Through this it could have reached 144,600 by now.

It really is amazing as to what God is doing. I give him all the glory and honor. I just share it and tell it. God gets the increase.