Is A Preborn Child Conceived In Rape Guilty Of Hurting Her Mother?

The other day while I was having a discussion with some people about abortion and rape this question was brought up. What if she was just so traumatized with her experience that the thought of having her rapist’s child killed her spiritually? This question bothered me so much that I had to take a few days to think about what I want to say. For those that are just reading this and don’t know my story, I was conceived from rape and placed for adoption.

Since I started to share my story almost three years ago I have had many things said to me that are negative since then and never once have I heard the question in regards to the pre-born child conceived in rape kill the mother spiritually, but since we live in a very corrupt world that is just getting worse every day it does not surprise me that this was brought up.

Since getting into many discussions and reading true stories I have found out that many women and young girls say that having their baby has saved their lives, their baby has helped bring them healing, their baby is the joy and the blessing that came from something very traumatic. I know one mother who conceived a child from rape has told me “She made me have joy through the storm”! Also women and young girls who have their babies they see their child as their child not the rapist child, not a reminder, but a child full of life and purpose. Romans 8:28 says, “And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.” All the stories that I have read I have never heard of these Mother’s saying that their pre-born child caused them to die spiritually while their baby was in the womb, but what I have heard is that the baby begins to help the mother heal while in the womb. I know this is true because when I got in contact with her she told me that I was the beginning of her healing process.

The child conceived from rape is innocent of any wrongdoing.  It is my opinion that if a woman is struggling spiritually after she has been raped it is because she is going through a lot of emotions and probably feels like God left her, feels like God is far away, feels worthless, and feels helpless. I would in no way condemn her for struggling, but I would love her, support her, and show her the love of Jesus and if she is pregnant I would share with her my story and share other stories of women who have found that having their baby has helped them in many ways.  It is also my belief that the baby conceived in rape is not guilty of causing the mother to die spiritually.

 

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Sherry Hensley is a Pro-Life Speaker in Maryland-Conceived in Rape, saved from an illegal abortion. She is married to Fred Hensley. Sherry enjoys inspiring others and sharing her faith. Fred and Sherry attend Bethel Christian Center in Havre de Grace, Maryland.

 

 

 

The Pain In Mother’s Day

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To all those people who deal with the pain of Mother’s day remember Jesus is holding you in his arms and he has held you since the day you were born. Jesus understands.

As I sit here this morning trying to find the words to begin this is difficult. I dread Mother’s Day. I will be honest I hate it. I don’t like it. One day on the Calendar I wish I could just bypass. Don’t get me wrong I am thankful for both of my mother’s. My birth mother and my adoptive mother.

The pain in mother’s day for me is never being able to have children.  After several years of trying to have a child we decided to see the infertility specialist. I wasn’t even at the infertility specialist for a full week and then I got the call from the doctor saying I am sorry but I can’t help you. He proceeded to tell me that if I had become pregnant it would have killed me. I was devastated. I could not look at a pregnant woman of even a newborn baby for a year. It was heartbreaking.

I am fine with not having any children, but when mother’s day comes the pain hits hard. It is brutal. I just want that day to hurry up and get over with. I deal with many difficult emotions that day and I stay home from church that day. I am not one that can hide my emotions very well so I don’t go. I want to cry when everyone is saying Happy Mother’s Day. I want to run from it. I have a hard time going to church and seeing all the Mother’s get something and then to have drawings on top of that. It makes me want to just burst out in tears and it makes me sick to see all that go on. I would think that the church in general would be more understanding towards those that are hurting on mother’s day and just get a gift for every woman in the church and leave it at that.  I will say that I am thankful to be in a church where my Pastor understands why I don’t attend church on Mother’s day. It is too painful of a day.

For those that are mother’s I hope I didn’t upset you and I hope that you do have a wonderful mother’s day, but if you know a woman who is going to have a hard time that day let her know that you are thinking about her, praying for her, if you see her sad give her a hug, or get her a card that says I am thinking of you. Little things like this go a long ways.

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Sherry Hensley is a Pro-Life Speaker in Maryland-Conceived in Rape, saved from an illegal abortion. She is married to Fred Hensley. Sherry enjoys inspiring others and sharing her faith. Fred and Sherry attend Bethel Christian Center in Havre de Grace, Maryland.

Who Can Really Love The Reject

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Who can really love the reject?

This afternoon I spent more time reading the book The Primal Wound: Understanding the Adopted Child”, by Nancy Verrier. While reading it the statement who can really love the reject was mentioned and it got my mind going in many different directions.

We have a problem in the world of adoption. The voices of the Birth mothers are heard, the voices of the adoptive parents are heard, but the voices of the adoptee tend to go by the wayside. Should their voices be heard as well? I think so. Because of the separation that takes place from the first mother adoptee’s deal with issues of rejection. I would be lying if I said that I didn’t deal with issues of rejection. I deal with issues of rejection. When things happen to relationships in my world that are hard for me to deal with I look at it as abandonment or rejection and people have to reassure me that they will always be there for me. Not that long ago I had to talk with my Pastor about some things and he told me, Sherry, you’re the one with the voice crying in the wilderness. That made me think.

I am adopted and I was also conceived from rape. Back when I was adopted so much information in the adoption records were fabricated because who really would want to adopt the rapist baby? I mean really who would want to raise the baby who would turn out to be like the rapist. I have news for people in society who think that babies conceived in rape turn out to be like the rapist you are so very wrong. I have yet to understand as to why when a woman is raped and conceives why all of a sudden she is treated like trash and she and her pre-born baby are looked at as rejects. What is wrong with people who automatically say she should have an abortion after rape. Having an abortion after rape only adds to the trauma that she is already going through. Instead of treating the woman and her baby like rejects why not love them and their pre-born baby.

I am thankful to live in a country where I have my freedoms, but those freedoms could be taken away so fast. It breaks my heart that we have many veterans who are homeless and they get treated like rejects as well. Why can’t we find it in our hearts take care of our veterans who fought for our freedoms? We live in a world where rejection is a big problem.

If we took the time to care about the reject this world would be a better place. Take time to love an adoptee who deals with issues of rejection, take time to love a woman who was raped and love her preborn baby don’t reject them, take time to love the homeless person on the street, take time to love the children who are in foster care, and the list of people who deal with rejection goes on.

Let’s look at Jesus. Jesus rejected no one, but yet he was rejected. Isaiah 53:3 says He is despised and rejected of men; a man of sorrows, and acquainted with grief: and we hid as it were [our] faces from him; he was despised, and we esteemed him not.

If no one finds it in their heart to really care about the reject I know someone who really cares about the reject and his name is Jesus. Psalms 27:10 says When my father and my mother forsake me, then the LORD will take me up.

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Sherry Hensley is a Pro-Life Speaker in Maryland-Conceived in Rape, saved from an illegal abortion. She is married to Fred Hensley. Sherry enjoys inspiring others and sharing her faith. Fred and Sherry attend Bethel Christian Center in Havre de Grace, Maryland.

 

I Choose To Forgive

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I Choose To Forgive

Luke 23:34  Then said Jesus, Father, forgive them; for they know not what they do. And they parted his raiment, and cast lots.

This evening while my husband was working late I decided to watch a Christian film on Pureflix and the title of the film is called Maggies Passage and I did not know what I was in for, but this movie has done something to me. It is a story about a young lady who is adopted into a Christian home and after her father had passed away she felt the need to go and look for her birth mother. She did find her birth mother who was unloving and did not want her. Maggie, destroyed the hotel room that she called home and came to a breaking point in her life. She was able to escape from the hotel room that was destroyed and she found some new friends. A couple of Maggie’s new friends that I remember was Grace who encouraged her to call home and Max who became a father figure to Maggie and fixed airplanes. The part of the film that stuck with me was when Max had to do something and Maggie was washing her hands all of a sudden someone grabbed Maggie and 1 of the two men that were there to take Maggie away was Maggie’s birth father. Max had come back and told the two men that they were not taking Maggie anywhere.

The next thing that I saw was Maggie looking her birth father in the eyes and said, I forgive you. While I never will know who my birth father is when I saw Maggie looking in her birth father’s eyes and telling him I forgive you it was as if I was looking at my birth father in the eyes and saying I forgive you. After I finished watching the film I wanted to find a quote on I forgive you and I could not find one that I was looking for. Then I wanted to find a woman in deep thought and I could not find what I was looking for so I decided to make my own and I wrote a letter to my birth father letting him know I choose to forgive. By me writing the letter tonight I feel a little bit of relief. I still have a ways to go but this is a start.

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When we choose to forgive others God will give us the peace that we need to continue with the healing process. There are times where we have to forgive over and over again. Knowing I was conceived from rape I will most likely have to forgive again. The last few weeks I have been so torn up to where I have been sick physically. Tonight I am beginning the healing process once again.

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Sherry Hensley is a Pro-Life Speaker in Maryland-Conceived in Rape, saved from an illegal abortion. She is married to Fred Hensley. Sherry enjoys inspiring others and sharing her faith. Fred and Sherry attend Bethel Christian Center in Havre de Grace, Maryland.

 

The Devil Tried To Destroy Me, But God Meant It For Good

There is so much on my mind tonight so please bear with me as I get through this. This is one of the most difficult blogs that I will probably write. When I found out that I was conceived from rape at the time that I found out finding out that I was born out of wedlock was much harder because I was raised to save myself for my future husband. When I read the words born out of wedlock my heart sank to my stomach I was sick.

I have been reading about things that the unborn baby goes through when the mother is going through things, such as stress, anxiety, depression, and other things. The unborn baby senses that. Reading about it has stirred up some very difficult emotions that I have not dealt with until now. The emotions that I am just now dealing are those that come when I first heard the words conceived from rape. I have been torn up for some time about it to where I am sick. The last few weeks I have had things happen. Some crazy person who read one of my blogs left me a note saying kill me, and I had someone report me on Facebook, and most recently while sharing my story someone cussed my birth mother out and I let them have it. I am so torn up by all of this that I can’t even cry. Whenever I hear the word rapist I will start shaking and I get sick.

Going through this is hard because I have the devil telling me that I am the rapist baby, the daughter of a rapist and I know those are nothing but lies right from the pit of hell. I know in my heart that I am not the rapist baby. God created me for a purpose. I am not the daughter of a rapist, but I am a daughter of the King of Kings and Lord of Lords.

My birth mother does not like to be called a hero, but she is. She had an aunt that could have arranged for her to abort me at a planned parenthood clinic, but rather she fought for the life of her baby. She fought for my life.  She did what she could do and she placed me for adoption. When she placed me for adoption her one request was that I be placed in a strong Christian home. God granted her request. Don’t get me wrong I am blessed to have been adopted, but many adoptee’s deal with issues that people who are born into the family do not understand and dealing with those issues can last a lifetime.

While the devil meant evil against me, God meant it for good and I am volunteering at a Crisis Pregnancy Center training to help women in a crisis. When we help the woman we will save the baby.

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Sherry Hensley and her Husband Fred reside in Baltimore, MD. Sherry is a Pro-Life Speaker in Maryland-Conceived in Rape, saved from an illegal abortion. She enjoys inspiring others and sharing her faith.

Someone Else

 

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I know we all have heard the phrase “Someone Else did it or I didn’t do it.” Especially from Children.

As Easter approaches and we remember the price that Christ paid for us on Calvary let us all remember the Resurrection. The Resurrection is about New Life. Life is a precious gift and each time there is life brought into the world it is new and fresh. There is also the celebration when New Life comes into our lives.

Growing up I always felt extra loved, and extra special when Easter would fall on my birthday. I did not understand at the time why I felt that way. I do now. Since finding out that I was conceived from rape I have a much greater appreciation for the term “Life.”

Society will tell you that those conceived in rape should be dead. That truly does not make any sense at all. They would love to have us dead because they do not want us speaking the truth.

Babies Conceived from Rape have an automatic death sentence. The sentence is for paying the price for a crime that they did not commit. That has left an impact on me as I could have paid that very same price. I am so grateful for a mother who was not going to let her daughter pay the punishment for a crime she did not commit, but saw her daughter as a gift, and allowed the precious New Life to be a gift to a couple who could not have children.

As I continued to think about it I could have paid for the crime, but I was given life instead. As I continued to think about all of this I thought about someone else in the picture. While I did not commit the crime, I am far from being perfect. I have done wrong, made mistakes, but guess what Someone else who is innocent paid the price for my wrongs, and he paid the price for the man who did the crime. I didn’t have to pay that price.

The someone else is this story is Jesus Christ while yet innocent he paid the price for all of our wrongs. He didn’t let the price that he paid keep him down, but on the 3rd day he arose from the grave and the resurrection of New Life began.

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Sherry Hensley and her Husband Fred reside in Baltimore, MD. Sherry is a Pro-Life Speaker in Maryland-Conceived in Rape, saved from an illegal abortion. She enjoys inspiring others and sharing her faith.

Children Conceived In Rape Have Potential

 

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As I watched the video from Mia Love giving her speech at the March for Life 2017, I was touched, but at the same time, I had many thoughts going through my mind.

In Mia Love’s speech at the March for Life 2017, she mentioned that “each child born and unborn has the potential to open up our world. She also mentioned that “each child maybe come a lawyer, a doctor, a person who can cure cancer, a person who can cure Alzheimer’s.” She then mentioned that “every time we kill a child through abortion we kill our potential. We can not except what might have been, but focus on what is to come.”

As I thought about what she said, I took her what might have been to what could have been and to what should be. In the pro-life movement, we have had many laws that have protected the unborn, except those conceived from rape, incest, and life of the mother.

Let me ask Mia Love and the Pro-Live movement? What could have happened if these bills that were passed did not have the exceptions in them? Could it have been possible that abortion would be illegal? Could it have been that these babies that are forgotten bring their mother’s healing or placed with couples who can not have children? Could it be possible that babies conceived from rape/incest or the life of the mother have potential?

The Pro-Life movement has much to learn from Mia Love’s speech. If the Pro-Life movement plans to focus on what is to come, we must not forget the lives of those conceived in rape/incest or the life of the mother are also worthy of the right to life. Children conceived in rape/incest should be allowed to have the right to life and live to their fullest God-given potential. They should be allowed to give their mother healing or allow the mother to place their child in a home where the child is cared for, accepted, and loved.

I was conceived in rape and placed for adoption. Since finding out that I was conceived from rape I have talked with others who were conceived from rape as well, and we are lawyers, firefighters, doctors, ministers, nurses, and so on. Who knows if the child conceived from rape/incest is protected just like anyone else maybe they can be the one to cure cancer, cure Alzheimer’s and become who God created them to be.

To the Pro-Life politicians, I urge you the next time you vote on a pro-life bill don’t exclude the exceptions but include them. After all, we are exceptional people who have potential.

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Sherry Hensley is a  Pro-Life Speaker in Maryland. Conceived in Rape, saved from an illegal abortion. Sherry is married to a Minister and I enjoy inspiring others by sharing her story and sharing her faith.

Conceived From Rape Saved From An Illegal Abortion At Planned Parenthood

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It was in early 2008 that I found out I was conceived from rape and became very upset, but prayed and chose not to allow anger and bitterness take root, and I opted to forgive my birth father because Jesus Christ died on the cross for my sins as well as the sins of my birth father.

My birthmother’s aunt wanted her to have an illegal abortion. I am so grateful that my birth mother did not give into the pressure of her aunt. 64% of abortions happen because of family and friends urging the woman to have an abortion. I am grateful that my birth mother chose life, and I was not one of the statistics of the 64%.

Last Summer when the Center for Medical Progress released the videos of exposing Planned Parenthood to very wrong and illegal practices I found out that my life could have ended at a Planned Parenthood facility before abortion became legal in the state that I was born in. When I saw the video of the 19-week baby in what I call the mixing bowl, I cried because it could have been me. I cringe when I talk about Planned Parenthood because I know that had my birthmother given into that pressure my very life would have ended at a Planned Parenthood facility.

Knowing what I know about my beginnings to life gives me a much greater appreciation for life. I am so thankful that my birthmother chose life and made the best decision and placed me for adoption.

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Sherry Hensley is a Pro-Life Speaker in Maryland-Conceived in Rape, saved from an illegal abortion. She is married to a Minister and enjoys inspiring others and sharing her faith.

14 Year Old Rape Victim Has Baby Stolen By DHR In Alabama

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I don’t know where to begin. I am sure by now many of you have read stories or heard about the 14-year-old young lady in Alabama who was raped and had her baby stolen from her by DHR. There is so much that is being done wrong to her. She is a victim, and now DHR is victimizing her again.

As someone who is getting more involved in the Pro-Life movement and also someone who was conceived from rape, when I read stories like the 14-year-old in Alabama it burns me up inside to read these stories. It is absurd when a rape victim is treated more like the criminal instead of the victim.

When I share my story and stand up for life, I don’t like to mention about how society treats the mothers and children from rape. Well, that is going to change. It is high time that I start to bring awareness as to how we are treated.

A lot has been going through my mind about this story about the 14-year-old Girl in Alabama who have her baby illegally taken from her by CPS. There was no reason for DHR to take her child. She did everything that she was supposed to do. The young mother does have her baby back, but she is still in the custody of CPS, and she is in a group home that has bugs and mold. It is not a healthy situation for her and her baby.

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Some recent good news she does now have access to her Lawyer and also has the basic birthing necessities that she needs. She needs to be released with her baby and be back with her grandparents who love her and are willing to help raise her and her baby. Her twin brother was also taken by CPS for no apparent reason. We must get them back to where they belong.

Governor Robert Bentley,

I am writing to you to let you know that I have been reading about the young 14-year-old in your state and was taken unjustly and illegally by Child Protection Services. Let me ask you this what if you had a daughter or granddaughter that you were raising and she was raped and became pregnant because of it and had the baby and the DHR comes in and steals the baby and then takes your daughter or granddaughter would you not fight to get them back?  I am sure you would want them with you.

Please do what is right and let them go back to the grandparents. DHR and CPS should be punishing the rapist not the young mother or her baby.

Thank You,

Sherry Hensley